INTP and ISFJ – Compatibility, Relationships, and Friendships - Personality Growth
Introversion and Introversion. Two introverts will get along well and both will give each other enough space to “recharge.” Too much. I've heard a lot of opposing views about ISFJ + INTP relationships but I haven't heard much from ISFJ's currently in those. While I understand that INTPs tend to focus too much on logic and lack in building functional interpersonal relationships, this relationship is.
ISFJs are loyal to what they see first-hand, and will often share perspectives based on personal experience.
What are ISFJs like as partners? In relationships, the ISFJ is generous, accomodating, and loyal.
ISFJs are dedicated to the task of taking care of their loved ones, and take their family responsibilities seriously. They look for ways to provide and to assist, and are attentive to the details of the people around them. ISFJs appreciate history and tradition, and often want to create a relationship that reflects traditional ideals. Whether male or female, the ISFJ typically adheres to customary gender roles, and dutifully takes on the corresponding household duties.
They typically have a clear idea of what a partner "should" do, but are not likely to be outwardly demanding when it comes to their own needs.
They prize harmony and will often withdraw rather than engage in conflict. ISFJs want a relationship that allows them to be helpful and dutiful in their devotion to loved ones. They appreciate a considerate and thoughtful partner who recognizes their dedication and ability to nurture others. He said, out of anyone he has ever met, opening up to me and being emotional is a rare occurrence, but he managed to tell me everything within a month of knowing me.
He said he has never trusted someone so much. We did have a rocky start though. My feelings were frequently easily hurt by some of his comments, but after talking to him and realizing he doesn't have a hidden agenda or he wasn't being passive aggressive, I've just learned to shrug if off when he says something offbeat, or laugh with him: I actually thought he was messing with my head most ISFJs think they are ugly, not sure why.
This made me not want to have sex because I was very very very self-conscious after hearing him talk about my looks all day. So this was just a frustrating cycle for both of us, as he was giving me a genuine compliment and was confused when I was giving him the cold shoulder.
I actually ended up confronting him He kept telling me that I was a supermodel girlfriend, and I finally said, "are you fucking making fun of me?MBTI INTP Dating and Intimacy
We actually found something about ISFJ's having an extreme dislike of compliments on personal appearances, and that helped him understand. Another example of miscommunication was, right after an argument about some guy at work having a crush on me, we had this conversation: Ugh I wish I didn't have to wear makeup Him: Don't wear it then. At least you wouldn't get hit on. I guess my guy can't move from one conversation to another, as his mind must have been on the guy liking me at work.
I thought we had been over and done with that conversation. I wouldn't be seen without makeup. Finally, one night, he said "god why do you wear this all the time? He was shocked, didn't realize what he had said because his mind was somewhere else at the time. He admitted to being insecure and terrified of someone else taking me away from him, but he never ever intended to say that. I've just learned to call him out on his ridiculous statements, or laugh at him, or the easiest ignore his lack of eloquence.
We have a couple other minor bumps in our relationship.
[ISFJ] Successful ISFJ + INTP relationships
We both have trouble expressing our needs. And when we do it usually ends up in a HUGE blowup. I think we have some underlying issues that are uncommon though and really don't have anything to do with our personality types. I did, however, get hurt anytime he did want alone time.
INTP and ISFJ – Compatibility, Relationships, and Friendships
It bothered me so much that he didn't want to be near me when he had time off from work. I've just learned to accept it and do my own thing, and I'm actually so much happier I take time for myself and my interests. It makes me a more well rounded individual, and it gives me substance to discuss with him.